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Jul 8, 2007
Walk nude.. Get Sympathy and police protection too !! The "abla naari" syndrome continues
Walk nude.. Get Sympathy and police protection too !! The "abla naari" syndrome continues...========== news item ========= Rajkot court asks police to provide protection to Pooja Chauhan
8 Jul 2007, 1653 hrs IST , PTI
RAJKOT: A court in Rajkot has
ordered police to provide protection to Pooja Chauhan, who created a flutter by
walking semi-nude on the city's streets to protest alleged harassment by her
husband.
The court also said
she should be allowed to continue staying in her rented accommodation. Chauhan's
landlord had asked her to vacate the home after her controversial protest. The
Gandhigram police station has received a copy of the order issued on Saturday by
Judicial Magistrate R M Bhatt, who directed police to provide necessary
protection to Chauhan.
But
police said they had been unable to trace Chauhan. "After the court's order, we
went to Puja's rented house in Shastrinagar but we found it locked," Inspector
Sardarsinh Zala said.
The
court's order directed her landlord in Shastrinagar, where Chauhan has been
staying for the past year with her three-year-old daughter, not to ask her to
vacate the house. The court also summoned four accused -- her husband Pratap
Chauhan, mother-in-law Hansa Chauhan and two neighbours -- to appear before it
on July 10.
However the four
are suspected to have left the city following Chauhan's protest, Zala
said.
The court's order came in
response to a complaint filed by Chauhan under the Domestic Violence Act, police
said.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/Rajkot_court_asks_police_to_provide_protection_to_Pooja_Chauhan/articleshow/2186403.cms
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Posted at 11:51 pm by E_Vinayak
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Jun 22, 2007
52 year old innocent humiliated, handcuffed and paraded thru his street. Third degree by police !! Are we a democracy ?
This fallse absolutely short of justice
The police guys who used their power to humiliate a 52 year old main and his family should be stripped of their badges and paraded the same way thru their POLICE stations
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I can understand why we (as in harassed hubbies) are all sitting ducks
Our bloods do NOT boil WHEN WE HEAR OF SUCH IN JUSTICE'
WE are able to DO NOTHING = paractically nothing when such a thing happens
The agrressors = both the police and the un scrupulous women continue to humiliate our mothers
This HUMILIATION is sad. Absolutely sad.
Regards
Vinayak
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But it falls short of justice though. Why weren't the Police chastised? Why weren't her father and uncle made to pay for the humiliation?
Instead of penalizing them they to cover their tracks start praising the father of the groom for having a big heart.
What does this mean "The bench then said police should be careful while tackling such cases and added: We are open and inclined to give a detailed order in this regard. But since this matter is resolved, we are disposing of the petition."
How does disposal of the petition obviate the need to instruct the police to handle cases carefully?
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Paraded by cops, praised by court HC praises 52-yr-old for `saving' son's marriage in spite of daughter-in-law's dowry complaint; he had been handcuffed and paraded by cops in Dec 2006 Baban Dhus, 52, a teacher in a BMC school, was arrested by Kalachowki police on December 3, 2006 after his daughter-in- law Vaishali filed a complaint that her husband and his family were harassing her for dowry. Vaishali's husband Nivrutti, her mother-in-law Alka, Nivrutti's elder brother Dyaneshwar and his wife Jyoti were also held.
All five got bail two days later on the condition that they would return the streedhan that Vaishali had brought along at the time of her marriage in May 2006. When the cops took Dhus to his Sewri home so that he could hand over the streedhan, they parked the police vehicle well outside his colony. Dhus was handcuffed and paraded all the way to his house, and the other four were made to walk behind him, hands folded.
The same man, on Thursday, was not only given a clean chit by the Bombay High Court but praised for allowing his son and daughter-in-law to get back together in spite of the allegations and the humiliation he and his family had gone through.
While sub-inspector Sanjay Zaveri of Kalachowki police apologised for the treatment meted out to him, the court told police that they should be careful while handling matrimonial offences. The Case The trouble in the Dhus family of Sewri started soon after Nivrutti and Vaishali got married in May 2006. Vaishali wanted to stay separately. This caused constant fights in the household. Finally, it was decided by elders on both sides that they should meet to `settle' the matter.
The meeting, held at a godown in Kalachwoki, however, resulted in heated arguments. Vaishali's father Savkar Padwal and uncle Bhikaji Padwal, both cops, were present at this meet. When the arguments got ugly, her uncle, officer on duty at Kalachowkie police station, called for two police vans, and Dhus and his family were taken to the police station.
There, Vaishali filed an FIR alleging that her in-laws and husband had demanded Rs 10 lakh from her for setting up a medical store. "We were put behind bars, beaten up, and the cops did not allow us to sleep and made us stand all night," Dhus said.
Two days later, they were paraded in their locality. "Any four-wheeler can come to our doorstep, but the cops parked their vehicle way ahead. I have the reputation of being an upright man. This act of the police tarnished it all," Dhus said.
He said he was questioned by his school about the incident and told he would be suspended, and Nivrutti lost his job in a pharmaceutical company after his employers got to know of his arrest. Family moves HC
Dhus then filed a writ petition in HC in April this year and got a stay on suspension orders from the school. In the same plea, citing Article 21 of the Constitution (right to life and personal liberty), he requested action against the police officers who had humiliated him.
A division bench of Justice Ranjana Desai and Justice D B Bhosale heard the matter and also heard the couple in their chambers. The girl, while speaking before the judges, expressed her desire to live with her husband and his family.
Dhus told the court that while he had no problem if the couple wanted to stay together, he suggested they live separately, so that he and Nivrutti's family could still have love and mutual respect for each other. Vaishali's family then withdrew all allegations against Dhus's family and gave an apology.
On Thursday, the Dhus family settled the dispute by signing on consent terms that said Nivrutti and Vaishali would stay together in a separate house. Hearing Dhus's decision, the bench said: "We congratulate you for having such a generous heart. If it were not for you, the marriage of your son would not have lasted. It is a big thing to put aside everything for your son's happiness."
Handle cases carefully Advocate Shrikant Bhatt and Nitin Vathkar, who stood for Dhus, pleaded before the court to pass strictures against the police and lay guidelines on how cops should conduct themselves in matrimonial matters. The bench then said police should be careful while tackling such cases and added: "We are open and inclined to give a detailed order in this regard. But since this matter is resolved, we are disposing of the petition. In future, if such a matter comes up, we will request Mr Bhatt to assist the court as amicus curiae."
Posted at 08:58 am by E_Vinayak
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Oct 1, 2005
Sons quitting Mother India
Sons quitting Mother India
The laws of the motherland India are giving step motherly treatment to her very own sons. Their future is in jeopardy by putting the sons and his parental family in to perils.
I am writing this because of several mails that we get to read in our Inboxes, I have one of those unfortunate mails to share with you. (Identity is kept a secret on purpose)
Hi Jinesh,
Thanks for replying to my email. As it stands now we are currently trying the mediation route with my in-laws although they have already filed a false complaint for 498 and got my mother arrested in such a way that it fell on the weekend and it took 4 days to get her out on bail.
I'm currently in the US working for an MNC. My mother is a cancer patient and is living alone in India. If you have gone through this situation I don't have to mention the pain and agony I and my family are going through. I want to get her out of India from this hatred and injustice
I sincerely hope you are not going through a similar situation, if you are my prayers and wishes go for you and your family.
Thank you for all your help!
Ashish.
With such dangers the sons are considering better options and they prefer to be adopted by different mother(lands) and are successfully and loyally working for them and in return they are atleast getting their peace of mind. and basic right to livelyhood.
God Save this Country and the fellowmen.
Jinesh Zaveri.
Posted at 10:11 am by Jinesh Zaveri
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Sep 21, 2005
Measure of Battered women<
Measure of Battered women
http://www.nycop.com/Davis_Column/Davis_-_Battered_Women_and_Bat/body_davis_-_battered_women_and_bat1.html Measure of Battered women
Most researchers and professionals agree that a "battered woman" is a woman whose life is thoroughly, extensively, and completely controlled by a man and her behavior purposely altered to suit a man's desires while they live in a familial-styled relationship. The batterer systematically uses physical violence, economic subordination, threats, isolation, and a variety of other behavioral controlling tactics to ensure she does what he wants her to do. The problem with the numbers documented above, and often reported elsewhere, is that the vast majority of data that purport to demonstrate the number of "battered women" do not document the above type of victim or abuser.
The vast majority of studies used to measure the number of "battered women" employ some form of the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS) developed by University of New Hampshire in 1971. CTS is the most common measure of non-sexual family violence. It measures three styles of interpersonal conflict in familial styled relationships. It measures, most often through telephone interviews, the use of rational verbal agreement and disagreement, the use of verbal and nonverbal aggressive behavior, and the use of physical force or violent behavior. It is not designed to measure in any rational context the reason or motivation for the behavior of either abuser or victim.
Almost all of the modified versions of the CTS ask questions such as:
• Did you have something thrown towards you that could hurt if it hit you?
• Were you grabbed, pushed, or shoved?
• Were you slapped, hit, bitten, or kicked?
• Were you hit with an object, choked, or beaten up?
• Were you threatened with a knife, gun, or other weapon?
• Was a knife, gun, or other weapon used against you?
The question begged here is, how many of us have not been guilty of, or a victim of, some form of the behavior described by the CTS scale? How does a single yes answer to any one of the above questions document that a victim of an isolated event is a "battered woman" or that the actor is a "batterer?" And just as important is the fact that the motivational dynamic is rarely asked and, hence, rarely answered. No one, not the most ardent feminist or male chauvinist, can argue with any degree of reason or certainty that some of these self-reported behaviors could not have been motivated by an isolated argument, anger, jealousy or revenge for some perceived prior behavior and/or fueled by an excessive use of alcohol or drugs.
Simple and cursory research concerning the "battered woman model" document the phenomenon is very real. I believe that most police officers in this nation honestly agree that both the batterer and victim, noted above, exist in their community. None of what I write is an attempt to dispute that fact. My concern is just the opposite. What I proffer is the attempt by many in the women's rights movement to inflate the number of victims and to paint all men as batterers and all woman equally at risk of being battered has resulted in driving many men and woman away from the issue. The victims of battering, the majority who are at the lower end of the socioeconomic, educational ladder, become marginalized because of the claim that all women are equally at risk for battering. All studies document quite clearly that women who suffer social, economic, and educational deprivation and lack family support are at a greater risk of severe battering. These victims are the ones who most need our help and their batterers need sure, swift, and just sanctions.
The constant attempt by the women's rights movement to paint all men as batterers has caused many men to minimize or deny or ignore this type of behavior even when they suspect a friend might be a batterer. Many men fear being caught in the women's rights legal dragnet for batterers. After all, many in the women's rights movement continue to profess that these witnesses, are men and hence they must be guilty of something. The continued drumbeat by many in the women's rights movement and some researchers that all men are demonic batterers and all woman angelic victims has resulted in the majority of men and women in America, who are not abusers or victims, to ignore the plight of many battered women that lack resources or family support.
Many women and African American women in particular, during the 1800s, came to distrust white suffragettes led by Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton because of their repeated attack on marriage and in particular when both turned their support away from the rights of African American women in the South to vote. Today, many men and woman, who are neither batterer or victim, have come to distrust many in the women's rights movement because of their repeated attack on all men and because they continue to present flawed and dramatically differing numbers of abusers and victims simply to support their position. And once again many very real victims are marginalized in society because of their social, economic, and educational status.
EDITOR’S NOTE: Richard L. Davis, the author of "Domestic Violence: Facts and Fallacies", Praeger Publishers, Westport CT (1998), retired after 21 years of service with the Brockton, Massachusetts Police Department, he is a Domestic Violence Intervention and Programs consultant. rldavis@post.harvard.edu
Posted at 07:44 am by E_Vinayak
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http://www.vdare.com/roberts/column101701.htm
October 17, 2001
Agenda Over Fact
By Paul Craig Roberts
Three years ago I concluded a sixteen-year stint as a Business Week columnist with the observation: “As the growing emphasis on feelings crowds out reason, facts will play a smaller role in public discourse.”
That was the safest prediction any economist ever made. Respect for facts has a tenuous hold on the allegiance of public policymakers, journalists, academics, and many others with agendas unsupported by the facts.
Recently, a history professor wrote a book citing sources that don’t exist. What was important to the professor was not truth, but making a case against gun ownership.
To further their agendas, other professors have fabricated life stories for themselves. A professor in Maryland passed himself off as a Vietnam veteran and told stories about events that never happened. Another at Columbia created a history of himself as a Palestinian refugee. One woman won a Nobel Prize in Literature for a fabricated biography. Even some scientists have made up global warming scenarios in order to achieve their environmental objectives.
In a civilization in which so much depends on adherence to fact, it is a scary thing to experience fact playing second fiddle to emotions. If fact becomes dispensable, what becomes of law, crime and punishment, trials, contracts, insurance, finance, technology, science, and identity?
Almost anywhere we look, we can find examples of propaganda crowding out truth. Consider the issue of domestic violence.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. The premise of domestic violence is that it is something men do to women. A current issue of National Review, for example, has a two-page add sponsored by the tobacco company Philip Morris. One page has the face of an attractive young woman. The other page is text designed to arouse anger at men:
“He said he beat me because I deserved it. Now I know I deserve better.” “‘He tried to strangle me last night.’ Melissa cried as she wrote these words, eight months pregnant and seeking an order of protection from her husband. Their high school romance had seemed like a fairy tale, but when the honeymoon ended the beatings began.”
There are shelters for battered women, domestic violence coordinating councils, and magazine and newspaper articles and advertisements that encourage women to report their husbands to the police just as they would report any other criminal.
Seminars warn women that a raised male voice constitutes abuse and is a prelude to a beating.
Feminists believe that the percentage of men who are abusers is far higher than arrest records indicate. From this belief they conclude that hoards of abused women are sufering in silence.
How many times have you read: “In the U.S. a man beats a woman every 12 seconds”? Have you ever wondered where these statistics come from or how often women batter men?
In his book, “The Revolt of the Primitive,” Howard S. Schwartz shows that the one-sided portrait of men as abusers of women is constructed out of fabrications and selective reporting of real studies.
The most extensive data base on domestic violence is the National Family Violence Survey, funded by the National Institutes of Mental Health and supervised by Murray A. Straus and Richard J. Gelles. Their conclusion that women are as likely to be violent and to initiate violence as men is one of the best replicated findings in all of social science.
A 1999 Canadian study by Brad Evenson and Carol Milstone, reported in the National Post, found that “women are just as violent to their spouses as men, and women are almost three times more likely to initiate violence in a relationship.” The National Post noted that the study “deals a blow to the image of the male as the traditional domestic aggressor.”
Dishonest feminists created the image to fit their agenda by selectively reporting and emphasizing only instances of male violence. The feminist claim that 12%-!5% of men are abusers comes from a survey, which reported that10.8 percent of the men committed minor acts of violence and 2.5% committed more severe acts. The same survey found that 12.4% of women committed minor acts and 4.7% committed major acts of violence. Moreover, 67% of the women said they had initiated the violence. Only 26% of the women blamed the male.
Ironically, it is mainly uninformed males, such as Dan Rather and Philips Morris executives, who spread the feminist propaganda. When Dan Rather termed Super Bowl Sunday “a day of dread for American women,” he was giving credibility to the feminist claim that wife beatings shot up 40% on the day of the big game. This feminist hoax was finally exposed by Ken Ringle in the Washington Post.
When confronted with their false reporting, feminists say that they trust their feelings about men more than “gender-biased statistics.” Like others, they are not interested in information that gets in the way of an agenda.
Paul Craig Roberts is the author (with Lawrence M. Stratton) of The New Color Line : How Quotas and Privilege Destroy Democracy
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Posted at 07:32 am by E_Vinayak
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Ultra-successful brainwashing of the public by the media
Ultra-successful brainwashing of the public by the media
http://homepage.ntlworld.com/verismo/dv.againstmen.html
If you want to find an example of ultra-successful brainwashing of the public by the media, you need look no further than the subject of domestic violence; though I have to admit that child abuse runs it a close second. If you ask the man-in-the-street what he thinks domestic violence is, he will probably tell you that it is men attacking women within the family. If you further ask him why he thinks this, he will tell you that he has heard it many times in TV news broadcasts, read about it in newspapers and magazines and has seen adverts about it on television.
Exactly! In a word he has been brainwashed and, sadly, he is by no means alone; he is in the company of his wife, his neighbours, his children's teachers, his bank manager and countless politicians. They are all totally ignorant of the true facts about domestic violence. So where can these poor beleaguered souls discover the truth about this important problem which constantly batters their ears and eyeballs? The sad answer is, it's all around them if only they use their eyes and their ears.
In January 1999 the UK Government's Home Office published the results of a survey into domestic violence. It was the biggest ever carried out anywhere in the world and involved more than 10,000 men and women. It was called Study 191 and it stated, quite categorically, that 4.2% of men and 4.2% of women perpetrate the crime of domestic violence. In other words they had discovered that men and women are equally violent.
Surprised? Don't be. It's nothing new and to my knowledge (and to anyone else's who has researched the matter) it has been known for at least 30 years.
The persistent claim that the overwhelming majority of victims of domestic violence are women is not supported by any impartial research, either in the UK or elsewhere. The results of all reputable gender-neutral studies of domestic violence in couple relationships, published to date, indicate that there is an almost equal numerical culpability between men and women.
We hear much today about the need for women's refuges where all those women who are `regularly' beaten up by men can flee with their children. The first such refuge in this country (indeed in the world) was opened by Erin Pizzey in London, back in 1971. She was a feminist and thought that women needed to be helped. But in her book Prone to Violence, published in 1982, she stated that, of the first 100 women who entered that refuge, 64 of them were as violent, or more violent, than the men they were allegedly running away from. So with this evidence available for over 20 years, why are the public and the politicians so ignorant of it? The simple answer is: the book was censored. Erin Pizzey received death threats from feminists in the UK who, at that time, were riding on the crest of a powerful wave, and Erin had to leave the country.
I first heard about the book eight years ago so I decided to buy a copy. I was told that it was out of print. I decided to try the massive Internet booksellers Amazon who boasted that they could supply any book. When I visited their site I asked for the titles of all the books written by Erin Pizzey (she's written about 12). Down scrolled a list of all her books - all except Prone to Violence. Strange! Are you now thinking the unthinkable, that book censorship is alive and well in the UK? You are so right!
Having failed to buy a copy, I decided to borrow one. I tried my local library but they told me that they did not have a copy. I therefore filled in the necessary card, and paid the fee, for them to borrow a copy from another library in the UK. I was eventually informed that there was not a single copy of the book in any library in the country. Fortunately, having had experience in the publishing business, I knew that a copy of every book published in the UK has to be sent, free, to the National Library, by the publisher. I told my library this and asked them to borrow a copy from them. They did, and I was eventually able to read the book. A year or so later, Prone to Violence was published on the Internet. The cenosrship had eventually failed and now anyone can download the entire book free.
Now that governments and other agencies can no longer censor books which appear on the internet, does it surprise you that we constantly hear of how much "damage" merely being on the Internet does to children? Increasingly politicians and other censorship angents are trying to take some sort of control of the Internet no matter how feeble the reason. Freedom to think is a constant threat to politicians. This complete censorship of domestic violence has now been replaced by a one-sided presentation of the "facts" of domestic violence with the feminist spin machine presenting carefully selected "facts" to present to the public in an effort to suggest that domestic violence is a sex issue, and not showing it in its true colours as a social issue. Violence in couple relationships has always existed. Some examples of male victims include Abraham Lincoln, and more recently, Humphrey Bogart and John Wayne, to name but a few. But do you think any of these gentlemen would want it noised abroad that they were attacked by their wives? I hardly think so. Just imagine what such publicity would have done to their macho images. And here we have a genuine problem but one which is slowly being solved. Men don't like to admit that they are attacked by their wives or girlfriends; hence they are loathe to admit it. In the UK the men's civil rights charity, ManKind, has over the past year, set up helplines for male victims all over the country. How many calls do they get? One of the men who mans one of the lines recently told me that he gets on average 15 every day; and that's only in one area of the south of England.
I know four men who have suffered domestic violence at the hands of their wives. The first woke up one morning to find his wife sitting on the side of his bed, striking matches and throwing them on the sheets in an effort to set him alight, another told me of the time he was left lying injured and bleeding on the floor of his kitchen, after being attacked by his wife, and when the police arrived, they stepped over him to go to his wife to ask if she was all right. A third man had his skull and several ribs fractured by his wife using an iron bar, but still stayed with her until the day she put crushed glass in his dinner. When blood started pouring out of his mouth, he realised it was time to move out. A fourth stands at six feet four, is a black belt in karate and his wife constantly bombards him with verbal abuse. He will not hit her because he knows very well that if he does the police will immediately arrest him and make him leave his home.
If you wish to delve further into the truth about domestic violence, I suggest you obtain a copy of The A to Z of D.V. complied by Martin S Fiebert, Ph.D. of the Department of Psychology, California State University. This is a collection of 95 scholarly investigations, 79 empirical studies and 16 reviews and analyses, covering over 60,000 case studies. Together, this massive volume of evidence proves beyond doubt that women are as physically aggressive, if not more so, in relationships with their spouses than men. All this is freely available on the Internet.
The majority of male victims feel that the police and social agencies are generally unsympathetic to their plight and in some cases antagonistic. A Dispatches programme, broadcast in the UK on 7th January 1999 reported on the experiences of 100 male victims of domestic violence and found that: 30% had been attacked while asleep; 25% had been kicked in the genitals; 25% of the male victims had themselves been arrested after seeking police help, and 89% felt that the police had not taken their complaints seriously. Only 7% of the female assailants had been arrested and none was subsequently charged.
Despite the huge body of research I have referred to above, the assumption that women are always the victims and men the victimisers still largely underpins government and public policy and is the reason for giving many millioins of pounds of public money to women's groups and refuges every year, and none to help male victims. There are over 445 refuges for "battered" women in England and Wales where women can flee and take their children. At the moment, in the UK there are just two refuges for men, one opened in December 2003 and the other, which is the only one exclusively for men, in January 2004.
Given the foregoing, it is not surprising that men do not report instances of domestic violence against them, and it is this problem that the UK men's rights charity ManKind is now busy addressing. Their DV posters are being increasingly seen in police stations, libraries and on notice-boards as more and more people are becoming aware of the truth of the situation and are willing to help. One of the posters shows a man with an injured face bearing the caption, "The `garage door' he bumped into last night was female." This is an attempt to urge men to report domestic violence as readily as women do. The latest surveys show that women are five times more likely than men to report domestic violence against them.
Domestic violence is not a sex issue, it is a social issue, and until both sides of the problem are acknowledged and addressed by those who claim to be concerned about the matter, no cure will be found.
Posted at 07:29 am by E_Vinayak
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